A Date with Destiny

Today will be one hell of a long day.  After managing to grab 4 hours' worth of sleep, I'm trying to convince myself I should take it easy and not do much, since I have a good 7 to 8 hours away from home later on.  My poor back will be the one to suffer the most I'm afraid!


So, today will involve a doctor's appointment, which might very well be the last one - who knows?  This will then be followed by another Prenatal class.

The thought that this might be the last time I see Creature on the ultrasound machine's monitor is sad, exciting, unnerving and extremely pleasant at the same time.  Our next encounter might very well be a face-to-face meeting!


Imagine you've been set up for a blind date with the one person you know is The One, by the most amazing of circumstances.  However the date was agreed to happen in 9 months' time.  In the meanwhile, you haven't had any direct contact with your Date.  You've had people telling you things about him/her, you've done your research based on the information given to you, as well as some research based on "what if" scenarios.

You've finally gained quite a bit of theoretical confidence - on paper, you know all there is to know for this Blind Date to be successful.  You know that you've taken care of everything within your power to ensure it works out.  And yet, you're aware that not everything is within your power - there may be external influences that determine how well the evening will turn out.

"What if s/he doesn't like me?"

That, is probably the biggest fear of them all.  Can you feel the butterflies fluttering about in your stomach? The sweaty palms of your hands, the threat hanging over your head that your voice might break up or that you'll say the right thing at the wrong time - or the wrong thing at the right time.

Now picture this - you arrive at the agreed location to meet your date..... but you're early.  How do you feel? Nerve wrecking, isn't it?


Now... amplify all that nervousness, uncertainty, doubts, anticipation, excitement..... amplify it all by a gazillion times.

You are still nowhere close enough to understanding what being so close to meeting Creature in person feels like.


As much as I truly appreciate the support people have been showing, and their confidence in my abilities to be a good mother - the judge of it all, at the end of the day, will be Creature.  For what might be the first time in my life, I actually care what someone else thinks of me. 


I'd like to make it clear that I'm not looking for any pity, nor am I fishing for compliments.  I'm just being honest in saying that being so close to the finishing line and making the transition from Pregnant Woman to Mother scares the living crap out of me. I don't believe it gets easier with time - human relationships rarely do... and I suck at them heh.  I can only hope that Creature and I will have compatible characters, and that when the day comes where we'll be arguing and s/he yells at me how much I suck as a mother and how much s/he hates me... well.. I hope that I will have done every possible thing within my power to be able to accept those words as bullshit spewed in anger.

Not all those who wander are lost.

Going to hospital is pretty much like going away for the weekend - you need to pack for it.  Unlike travelling though, you cannot really afford to leave your packing for the last minute.  Baby might pop out at any given moment in time, so the sooner you prepare your bags, the better.

Ideally, you should aim to have everything sorted out before week 28 kicks in.  After that point, you'll end up too exhausted to do the packing yourself, plus you become like a ticking time bomb.

I have had a look at various Hospital lists so far, and this is what I gained out of it: Don't follow the first list that comes to hand.

A lot of baby shops offer you their own version of the list and some give you some sort of special offer if you buy all the items off the list from their shop.  To some mothers-to-be, this seems like the perfect deal as it saves them time.  To me, it just seems like a good way to make business.

There are certain lists that have way too many things you don't truly need.  I tend to pack just the bare necessities, and then get whatever I happen to need once I arrive at my destination if I happened not to pack it with me in advance.  The same can be done for your Hospital Bags.  The hospital in Malta has a shop that will pretty much cover your forgetful arse with most of your needs, anyway.  That, and all you'd have to do is get a relative or a friend to run a quick errand for you should you forget anything behind.

So, I'll just go through the list of what you truly need for both Baby and Yourself.

First thing to keep in mind is this: It makes life much more easy to have two separate bags,  One will be just for you, and the other for your spawn.  It will save a lot of time and frustration by lessening the need to dump everything out of the bag in order to find something.

Baby's Bag
As soon as you open the bag, you should find a separate paper/plastic bag containing the following:

• A nappy
• A towel
• A vest/ onesie
• A baby grow
• A baby hat
• Baby mittens
• A pair of socks

This bag will basically contain the very first things your Baby will need as soon as s/he is born.  It is a good idea to have an outfit at hand which is in Newborn size, and one which is in a 0-3 months size.  The reason for this is purely the fact that you won't know a)how prematurely your baby might be born and b)how bigger or smaller than expected s/he might be. I would recommend that the rest out the outfits would be in a 0-3 size as it is more likely that Baby will be on the bigger rather than the smaller side.  Should it be required though, you can always get a few smaller sized clothes once s/he is born.  Family/friends can help out with that.

When it comes to Baby Vests, it is ideal to go for Onesies instead.  Onesies a.k.a. body suits have a snap-button fastening at the crotch to make it easier for you to access dirty nappies whilst making it harder for Baby's belly to become accidentally exposed and potentially leading to a chronic case of gas.

On the subject of Baby Grows [a.k.a. feety pyjamas/ sleepsuits], a nifty thing to look out for is "hidden mittens" - which is basically a 'pocket' that is sewn on the back/front of the sleeves' cuffs which can be doubled over so that it covers Baby's hands.  They can save you quite a lot of grief from lost mittens.  Also, if the Baby Grow has feet, it'll save you from having to deal with lost socks as they won't be necessary.

 The infamous mitten cuffs

In the actual Big Baby Bag itself, you will need to include the following:

• Baby shampoo and baby soap
• A shawl or blanket
• Tops & tails bowl/small basin
• Washcloth
• More nappies [i.e. just toss in a whole packet]
• Nappy Bags [i.e. bags in which dirty nappies can be thrown into to dispose of]
• Wet wipes
• More baby outfits [i.e. onesies/ baby grows/ hats/ mittens/ socks, as well as the Going Home outfit]
• A couple more towels
• Cotton wool

If you plan to bottlefeed your Minion,don't worry.  The hospital will supply you with both the bottle as well as formula milk if that is what you opt for.

YOU!

 

The most important thing you will need is your Ante-natal Card [a.k.a. Blue card].  It is vital you take it with you as without it, they won't admit you to hospital.  This means that is should be in your handbag AT ALL TIMES just in case you need to be admitted to hospital urgently [e.g. you have an accident.]

As for you, you'll need quite a few things.  The following should be packed in a separate plastic/paper bag and placed at the very top of your Big Bag as you'll need them soon after you give birth:

• A nightdress with front opening if you plan to breastfeed
• A nursing bra [if you plan to breastfeed]
• Maternity pads [i.e. enormous sanitary towels since you'll be catching up with your old friend Bloody LadyBits soon after you give birth]
• Disposable briefs - and make sure they are stretchy and high-waisted as if you happen to need a C-section, the elasticated waistband must be higher up than the stitches.
• Face cloth / sponge
• Bath towel
• Shampoo, conditioner & shower gel
• Socks / Slippers
• Dressing gown
• Comb or brush for your hair 

 Other things you'll need:

• 2 or 3 more nightdresses / pyiamas [or if you're like me, tracksuits]
• Another dressing gown
• Extra pairs of socks
• Extra nursing bras
• Breast pads [to prevent you from leaking through your clothing]
• Extra briefs 
• Tissues
• Any other personal toiletries and - if you're the kind who is unable to live with out - make up
• Towels
• Your spectacles or lenses and their liquid container
•  Your pillow if you can’t sleep without it
• Going home outfit

JUST IN CASE YOU'RE ADMITTED EARLY:

• Medicines/ vitamins that you take during pregnancy
• Some snacks or biscuits
• Teabags or coffee, some powdered milk and your mug if you prefer 
• Some water

Keep in mind that your stay will last anywhere between 2-5 days.  You don't need to pack all your clothes for the duration if you don't want to -just prepare whatever clothes you'd like and leave them at home.  All it will take is for a friend/relative to pick them up for you.

Also - you won't shrink back to your pre-pregnancy size straight away - you'll  still look like you're about 5-6months pregnant at first.  So plan your clothes accordingly.  Don't wear skinny-fit, low-waisted stuff as if you have any stitches, it'll be hell for you.

You will also need to make sure you have a Baby Car Seat readily available as this is what you'll be using to take Baby home.

Things you are not allowed to wear when giving birth:

• Fake nails - as the medical staff will need to check the colour of your real nails to confirm everything is ok with you.
• Nail polish - see above reason.
• Jewelry [*sob*] - though different hospitals have different policies on body jewelry - so ask in advance whether it is all jewelry or just specific jewelry [depending on material and placement].

Optional things you might wish to take with you

•  Mobile phone & charger
• Camera & batteries/battery charger
• Book[s]
• Mp3 player
• Address book/contact list to alert those you wish to of the birth

That is pretty much it! Happy packing!